Remembering Nick: It’s about the journey.

A collection of Nick Huber's writing

A collection of Nick's writing

It’s Memorial Day. The day for remembering. For being thankful to the people who have fought on behalf of this country I live in. I’m incredibly thankful to all the men and women who have served in the military. To my friends who have done two and three tours through Iraq and Afghanistan. To my ancestors who served during the world wars and through Korea and Vietnam.

While this Memorial Day is for them, my memorial day will be spent remembering a man who left a deep – and permanent – mark on me. In college, I worked for the athletic media relations department. Nick Huber was my boss – only a few years older than I – but he was really a rock star at what he did. Really, he was a super star when you consider he was diagnosed with ALS – Lou Gehrig’s disease – at the age of 23. (ALS is a progressive neuromuscular disease that destroys motor neurons, and there is no cure.)

Yes, Nick was my boss, but he was so much more – a friend, a sounding board, a mentor. And not just the kind of mentor that made me better at my job, though he certainly did that. He was the type of mentor who taught me about real things. About life. About dying. About how to live, and how to laugh, and how to make a difference.

It’s impossible to say everything I’d like to say about Nick in a blog post, but I would like to leave you with a couple excerpts from a blog he maintained until he passed away in July 2008 at the age of 28.

In response to Tim McGraw’s song “Live Like You Were Dying”

I was dying after all, and it wasn’t that cool, what with all of the doctor’s appointments, changing life goals, and elimination of countless dreams. It was not exactly a thrill.

I don’t think that necessarily means you have to follow Tim’s advice and go skydiving or rocky mountain climbing. It doesn’t take big things to get the most out of life in my opinion. When my last day on earth comes, I don’t think I will regret evenings like this where I relax with my beautiful wife in our safe and comfortable home.

I am living. And I am dying. But most importantly, I am working to make every day matter.

On coming to terms with a terminal illness

When I was diagnosed, I thought about how I was going to squeeze 50 odd years of living down to five or so. It boggled my mind at times. I found myself anxiously trying not to “waste” a moment, whatever that meant. Since those early months after my diagnosis, I have come to the conclusion that I was trying to play a game that can’t be won. You cannot squeeze 50 years into five years. It can’t be done.

The real trick is trying to squeeze five years of living into five years. Or one year of living into one year. Or one month of living into one month.

Each one of those units of time is composed of days. And days, by nature, have their limits. You can only do so much in a day after all. But, you can do so much in a day. So I try to have days that are meaningful by approaching each day fresh, even if the previous one was rotten.

It all starts with a single day.

I went and saw Nick the night before I was leaving for my big move to Washington. I think we both knew we wouldn’t be seeing each other again in this life, making that last visit a bittersweet time. Even so, I was chomping at the bit to get home and finish packing, and Nick looked over at me, “What’s the hurry? Washington isn’t going anywhere.”

I think of that night often and the final lesson Nick was trying to teach me.

It’s about the journey, not the destination.

I wasn’t anxious to enjoy 22 hours of driving; I was anxious to get to where I was going. The journey was just a means of getting there.

But Nick? Nick was a journey man. Maybe because his destination was a one-way ticket on the outbound train, maybe because that’s just how he was.

Today, I’m remembering to enjoy the journey, to embrace the journey, to live the journey.

Recipe Roundup: Homemade Pizza

When I was growing up, homemade pizza was the Friday night tradition. It didn’t feel like Friday night if we weren’t all crammed in the kitchen throwing pizza together. So when I was watching a friend’s girls, I offered to make pizza on Friday night. Felt like old times.

Mom’s New Pizza Dough
Mom’s original pizza dough recipe takes forethought. It has to raise for a couple hours. This new one is still yeast-based but soooo much quicker.

2 Tbsp. yeast
2 c. warm water
2 tsp. sugar
2 tsp. salt
4 Tbsp vegetable oil
5 c. flour

Dissolve yeast in warm water. Add rest of ingredients. Mix thoroughly, turn dough out on floured surface, knead, and let rise for 5-10 minutes. Spread dough out into crust. (Covers 2 jelly roll pans.) Top with pizza sauce, desired toppings, and bake for 10-15 minutes.

* I usually mix up the dough, and then let it rise while I’m browning the hamburger for my toppings.

We made hamburger, pepperoni, and canadian bacon pizza, and it was beyond delicious. Plus, making pizza from scratch is a great way to get the whole family in the kitchen for some fun family bonding time!

Homemade Hamburger Pizza

Homemade Hamburger Pizza

Doc Discovers Swimming

Doc discovered he can swim the other day. He’s always loved the water, more than any other dog of his breed I’ve seen, and now he makes a beeline for anything larger than a puddle. It’s a kick to watch!

“Not every animal is a pet.”

Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert

Image courtesy Us Weekly

Hey, wasn’t there something about a big wedding just a week or two ago? People were really excited about it? It was a big deal. You know the one I’m talking about – the Miranda Lambert/Blake Shelton wedding shenanigans? Oh good, I’m so glad we were thinking of the same folks.

Anyhow, I’ve been a fan of Miranda Lambert’s music for a long time. (Hello, who doesn’t need a little Kerosene to get through the bad break-up days of college?) In a world of teetering-so-close-to-the-edge-might-as-well-jump-in pop-style group of young female country singers, Miranda sticks to country. I like that.

I like some of Blake Shelton’s songs – Ol’ Red and his new one Who Are You When I’m Not Lookin’ – have wormed their way on to my These Songs Kinda Rock list. And he asked Miranda’s dad for her hand in marriage. Guys? Gents? Fellas? This is something you need to do. Thank goodness I’m not a man, because I certainly wouldn’t want to have that task. I do have a special place in my heart for all five men who have to ask my dad for his five girls though.

Mostly though, I have a great deal of admiration for both Miranda and Blake for sticking to their guns on what they support. They sang at the World Ag Expo. In an interview with CNN Health, Miranda talked about her childhood farm where they raised their own vegetables and meat. Her most striking quote was in response to whether it was hard having to slaughter their animals.

Dad would give us two rabbits as our pets, or we’d have one pig we could name. They explained that not every animal was a pet — some were providing for our family. It sounds weird to other people, but I look at it like, there are some animals you feed and some animals that feed you.

I think it’s amazing that some high-profile celebrities advocate for agriculture. It gives me hope that there are still people who don’t sell out to the highest bidder. But mostly, I like the fact that I can listen to their music and know that they’re the type of folks I could kick it with out on the ranch.

Stampede!

* A story from the old days

I’d only seen stampedes in John Wayne movies. The kind where 2,000 longhorns run through camp and guys in long johns jump on their horses while firing guns into the air. The kind Chris LeDoux sings about: the cattle rise up, and go to runnin’, I spur my pony on and take the lead, and across the herd I can hear Willie yellin’, Hey stampede! The kind that make you think stampedes only live on the big screen and tucked away in song lyrics.

I was…eleven? Thirteen? Seventeen? I don’t remember (clearly), but my first – and last – stampede I was in has certainly been a memory stuck to the insides of my brain like duct tape on glue.

We had just weaned calves. It was pushing November, and it was another late night working in the glow of the corn crib yard light. They were restless. Spooky. Wanting their mamas, pacing the unfamiliar lot, and feeding off the anxiety of their pals.

Dad and I were walking through the lot after having flaked out alfalfa squares in the bunks. There was silence, mostly, as I remember. The snorting of the calves, the occasional beller from a far-off cow. Nothing out of the ordinary considering the freshly separated calves.

And then there wasn’t silence. Maybe it was the shadows. Maybe it was one calf who jumped and the rest went with him. Or maybe they just felt like it. Whatever the reason, the low, thunder-like rumble behind me caused me to turn around to a sea of red calves headed straight for us.

It was a short lot, but they were at full run when they reached us. It couldn’t have been more than a second and, in reality, was probably a fraction of a second from the moment I comprehended what was happening to the moment I was surrounded.

Just as well, there was no place to move to, and no time to do the moving. They brushed past me so closely I felt the whisper of fur on my arms.

And then it was over. They turned at the fence, shot down the length of the lot and then stopped.

Dad had turned too and looked over at me. “Well,” he said.

“Yep,” I replied.

Often the newly weaned calves will spook. Sometimes the fence holds them, and sometimes it doesn’t. But usually I’m not standing in the middle of them when they do spook; I think I’d prefer stampedes stay on the big screen and tucked away in song lyrics.

Wordless Wednesday – “Attention”

Attention

Recipe Round-up: Canollis

I’ve been in the mood to bake the last couple weeks. Banana chocolate chip bread, regular bread, pumpkin chili, chocolate chip cookies. I’ve even done laundry and cleaned the house – twice! Apparently Laura Ingalls and Betty Crocker took over my body when I wasn’t looking.

Canollis are something my mom used to make when I was growing up. We packed our lunches to school, and these were the envy of everyone in the cafeteria. However, Adult Me has realized how finicky they are to make so they don’t happen very often.

Essentially, canollis are homemade hot pockets. Exactly, what’s not to love?

Rolling out dough

Roll out a chunk of dough. The recipe says “golf ball size”. Who has time to be that precise? By the way, this rolling pin? Heavy. Duty. I could take out a whole load of bad guys in a dark alley with this thing.

Mmm, canolli filling!

Place filling in center. I used a mixture of ground beef, onion, green pepper, and pizza sauce. Sausage and pepperoni make good fillings or a vegetarian mixture would work nicely as well. And cheese. There must be cheese, or they aren’t really canollis.

Ready to fold dough over on top

Fold sides over and pinch ends. Basically you smash the dough on top of itself and pray it stays. Sometimes it takes a lot of prayer.

My "assistant" on the job.

If there was a contest for messiest baker west of the Mississippi, I’m pretty sure I would win. That’s why I employ an assistant each time I bake. He’s always happy to oblige, and he never asks for a raise.

Doc, the border collie, yawning.

I must not have dropped anything for awhile; he’s yawning. Or laughing. I’m not sure which.

Canollis ready for the oven!

Here they are. Ready to bake. Ideally they should be of similar size so they bake more uniformly. As you can see, ideals don’t seem to live long in my kitchen.

Canollis, done and ready to eat.

And here they are in all their canolli-goodness! Excellent piping hot, and they freeze well.

Canollis
Ingredients
3/4 c. milk
1/4 c. sugar
1 tsp. salt
1/4 c. margarine
1/2 c. warm water
1 pkg. yeast (~2 1/4 tsp.)
1 egg
3 1/2 c. flour

Scald milk, stir in margarine, sugar and salt. Cool, dissolve yeast in warm water, add to milk. Add egg and 2 cups of flour. Beat til smooth. Stir in enough flour to make dough. Cover, and let rise.

Follow the steps pictured above, filling with whatever strikes your fancy, and bake at 400 degrees for 10-15 minutes.

More Than Cattle Ranching

I am not one-dimensional. No one is, but writing about one particular topic – ranching in this instance – can make it appear like I’m one-dimensional. Heck, sometimes it makes me feel like I’m one-dimensional. Though cattle ranching is a huge part of my life, it’s still only a part.

When I was catching up on my blog reading today, I stumbled across this post, What Fuels Your Passion?, by Ryan Goodman at Agriculture Proud. I started thinking. What am I passionate about? For people who only know me as a ranch girl, are there other things I’m passionate about that would interest them? Surprise them? Start conversations? Lead to deeper friendships?

As a person who is passionate about ranching, it isn’t much of a stretch to see that I’m also passionate about horses and the outdoors. Nor is it odd that I love border collies and the smell of fresh-cut alfalfa, a good rodeo and a nice pair of Wranglers.

But for my other passions?

Writing. Hands down. (Hello. I blog.)

Traveling. Road trips are my favorite. I’ve been on two major road trips (one to the upper east coast and one through the western United States) plus a myriad small day/weekend trips. I am starting to plan an Alaskan excursion and a trip to the southern U.S. I’ve never been to Texas; I have to change that.

Photography. I could spend an hour trying to find the perfect angle with the perfect lighting for a picture of a sidewalk crack. Which could be an indication I’m slightly cracked myself.

Running. *sort of* This one ebbs and flows. Sometimes I can’t imagine life without running. Other times I wonder why the word even exists. There’s a correlation with whether I’m in the middle of a run or not. Weird.

Music. I was a radio dj once, and I’d absolutely do that again. What’s not to like about sitting in a sound-proof room and essentially talking to yourself? I’m an accomplished pianist, and I’m in the middle of teaching myself how to play the guitar. And the harmonica. And the fiddle. The last one is going to require professional help though, mostly by demand of my neighbors.

I also enjoy finance, real estate, sports, self-defense, law enforcement, cooking, and reading.

And I definitely enjoy clean laundry and amazing food.

See? Not one-dimensional, and I’m saying that to myself as much as anyone else. I’m passionate about cattle ranching, but my other passions help keep me balanced. More importantly, they ultimately keep me from being boring.

How about you? Is there more to you than your 9-to-5 job and paying bills?

We’ve all got a little country in our souls.

I think the vast majority of people have an interest in cattle ranching. Or maybe I should say they have an interest in what they perceive cattle ranching to be. Thanks to John Wayne, Louis L’Amour, and the sport of rodeo, a lot of folks have at least a passing interest in ranching.

Several years ago, I was on a sports marketing trip in Phoenix with a dozen of my college classmates. While there, we visited a dude ranch. I enjoyed seeing some of the desert scenery so different from the lush and green rolling landscape of Iowa, but observing my classmates – many who hadn’t ever been on a horse – was really interesting. They all wanted to know more about their horse, the history behind the ranch, where the cattle were, etc.

I really think most people are like that. Chris LeDoux sings, “Even cowboys like a little bit of rock and roll.” – and the same goes for city folks. They’ve got a little country in their souls which puts us all on the same page, right?

I mean, at least in the first paragraph, we’re all connected to that spirit of wide open spaces. It’s a good place to start a conversation.

The Curse of Mother Nature

This spring has been a funky mix of weather around here. And when I say “funky” I mean utterly depressing, full of rain and cool temperatures. Being able to work in the fields has proven to be a minor miracle, and finding a day of good weather to work cows has been a futile search.

But this morning I heard my Iowa hometown had been hit by twin tornadoes. Granted, they were baby twisters, but they caused a lot of damage. My brother’s ranch is only about seven miles out of town, so I called him up to see if he was alive. “So far, so good,” he said, fixing water gaps from the gully-washing 4.5 inches of rain he’d gotten. *gulp* I’d forgotten about the torrential Iowa rains!

“Let me know if you die, okay?” I said.

“Sure. You do the same,” he said as we signed off.

It’s been a wild spring weather wise clear across the nation, and it started me thinking. Sometimes folks look at farmers and ranchers and think, “Man, they’re their own boss, they get to work outside, they grow food. Amazing!” Except sometimes not.

Many farmers and ranchers may be the only name on the side of the truck they drive, but Mother Nature (and the bank?) is the real boss. I love the outdoors. There’s no place I’d rather spend my time, but she’s a tough master. There’s no reasoning with her, pleading your case, or driving a bargain. You do the best you can, and then you have to let it go.

Control: there is no such thing in farming and ranching – or life – it’s really just an illusion we carry around under one arm. No wonder one of my arms is longer than the other.